I’m proud to be partnering with Northwell Health Fertility to bring National Infertility Awareness Week to light. With a holistic, personalized approach to fertility treatments, Northwell Health aims to be a source of support for the 1 in 8 women struggling with infertility. Though I have not received services from Northwell Health, I am committed to their mission to end the stigma surrounding infertility. #ad
When you have kids it is pretty clear that nearly nothing will go exactly as planned. I remember when I was pregnant with Ryder I talked to my doctor about our birth plan and how I wanted music in the delivery room, aromatherapy, a birth ball…she flashed a knowing smile and said we’d try our best. Well, three kids (and three C-sections) later, I know that being a parent means being flexible and prepared, but ready for anything. And sometimes that ready for anything philosophy applies to the journey before you have kids, too.
We all imagine what our lives will be like from a very early age. I knew from when I was young that I wanted to get married and live in NYC and of course, have a big family. When Jason and I started trying for Ryder, everything happened seamlessly. We didn’t even really “try,” it just came together. I heard about other couples struggling to get pregnant but no one really talked about it—like it was an embarrassing secret if you couldn’t get pregnant.
We knew we wanted to have our kids close in age, so not long after Ryder was born we talked about baby number two. When we started trying for a second child things didn’t exactly go as planned. It took Jason and I over a year of “trying” to realize we needed to get a little intervention. I was so confused because our first try was so easy—obviously, I could get pregnant—why was I having trouble the second time around? What I didn’t know was that 1 in 8 couples struggle to get and stay pregnant and many couples experience secondary infertility, like I did.
After several fertility treatments, I finally went through a round of IVF and it was a success. We felt so lucky. In retrospect, we should have sought help sooner. If you have been trying for a year (under 35 years old) or 6 months (over 35 years old) you should probably see a specialist about fertility. It isn’t a failure or taboo—we need to remove the stigma attached to infertility and fertility treatments. The whole process becomes stressful and scary when you feel embarrassed to speak up or talk about trying.
Infertility can feel so isolating and frustrating, that is why I encourage everyone to check out Northwell Health Fertility. They aim to not only provide a holistic approach to care that’s personalized for each patient, but also a source of emotional support when you need it most. It is so important to have a community of people to turn to and a network of support on your fertility journey. We talk about building the mom community once we have kids, but we should also create an even more supportive community for couples trying to have kids. It is a vulnerable and scary time that many people keep themselves.
National Infertility Awareness Week is April 21-27, 2019 and I have partnered with Northwell Health to bring awareness to this emotional and difficult topic of fertility. You can visit here to learn about how to support a loved one dealing with infertility. While there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach, Northwell Health Fertility experts can help you navigate this delicate topic.